But, we can be there... Be there in the simplest and least imposing ways. We hug, we cry, we listen, and, of course, we bring food. (We are, after all, Jews). We try, not through our words but, through our actions, to say: "We are here, we care, we will not let you suffer alone." And if we do not know them yet, well, what better way to build a relationship and a community than to be there for each other at the darkest of times?

Around death and mourning, there is a world of ritual-specific burial practices, guidelines for mourners, advice for those who come to comfort them. Each of these traditions has a clear purpose and a profound meaning. Together, they allow the mourner to work through the grief and disorientation that death brings in its wake. And, in the end, they reinforce the bonds between the mourner and the community.

When our mourners at Bnai Tikvah leave the shelter of the shiva house, and return to "normal" life, they do so knowing that an entire congregational community of friends and neighbors has embraced them. And thus, out of the pain of death, comes a renewed appreciation of life.